Monday, October 6, 2008

Decisions

Alright, all.

I have a dilemma.

Thing is, I found myself in a situation at work today (I wrote a nice long scathing post on it but am holding back for a second before posting it) where for the first time, I think I may be searched out on the Internet.

Meaning, I think a client might actually try to get info on me, and not in a nice way.

It was bound to happen at some point, I guess.

So just in case, I Googled myself tonight (I have done this before to help make the blog more private and unlinkable back to me - hence, some of the changes, like from Megan to "M"). And while I caught a few things before and again tonight, I worry that there may items out there to link me to the blog.

And moreover, I REALLY worry that this guy is going to find it.

Trust me, he likes his research, and he is awfully determined (the details of which are forthcoming in the aforementioned post).

So the quandry is this: I HATE HATE the idea of going private, but I feel like I might be at the cusp of that at this point. I know I have made some mistakes in the past about putting my info out there, and I have since deleted all traces to me, but you never know.

Furthermore, I am considering dismantling my Facebook page. Honestly, the novelty has worn off, and it's just another link back to me.

My point is - I really want to keep talking about my life and my experiences, but there are people out there that will definately use this against me (not you guys - I speak of crazy people with whom I work).

So I guess this is sort of a pre-warning that things might go private soon. I know, it's a pain to have to log in - trust me - I am not happy about this either - but better that then potentially be sued for saying shit that can be misconstrued.

And we all know I like to talk candidly.

So I am going to put that out there for the next day of so, try to tie up some loose ends, and then give you the post about what really happened today, so you can see for yourselves why I might be slightly worried (no identifying info - I am legally bound by confidentiality - but again, you never know who might read what).

Oh, and my blue has turned to bright red - for enraged.

Welcome back, Little Meggie, welcome back.

22 comments:

IM Able said...

If you are worried about your privacy or safety, go private. My computer logs in automatically, it just means I don't get the feed. I'll still show up and scan posts for mentions of poop.

Also, you may not need to go private permanently, depending on the client motivation. Is it possible he would search hard for a while and then, coming up with limited results, drop the search? A few months of no hits may dissuade him.

Either way...you go, I go. As for your blasphemy about FB, I just don't know what to say. Without words. Oops...sorry, must go check my page and see if there are any new status updates. Gotta have priorities. (wink)

Team Brazo said...

Absolutely -- go private. Not worth the headaches and worries -- plus I would hate to have you "not say exactly what's on your mind".

Have a Great Day...

Lauren said...

Go private (as long as I make the invite list! LOL). Seriously, our blogs should not be a source of stress in our lives -- they're supposed to be our release. If it's stressing you even a little bit that someone may be stalking you down on Google, then please lock the door to the uninvited.

Jenny Davidson said...

Good luck figuring out how to handle this. It does sound like the best solution may be to go private. Stay safe!

Danielle in Iowa said...

Aw, sorry you have to deal with this shit!

Go Mom Go said...

Go private.
Really.

It is not worth it and we will all follow...IF you invite us!

Peace!

Anonymous said...

I know who you are and you're fucked.

Roscoe

MissAllycat said...

Dude, that sucks that this guy is such a douchecanoe. Go private. We will still love you. :)

Andra Sue said...

Yes, this is teh suck. BUT, I doubt anyone minds if you go private as long as you invite all of us very important blog readers. :)

Facebook seems pretty innocuous to me, but you know...do what you have to do to be safe!!!

Speed Racer said...

URRRGGGHHH!!! I HATE that! I have been busted on more than one occasion talking shit about people that I think will never read my blog. I live in constant fear that other people who I have talked about in the past will find me, but can't stand the idea of going private either.

This is my first time here, so I don't really know what you like to get into, but is there any way... any way whatsoever... that you could just bite your tongue? No? Well okay. Probably best to just keep it private then.

If you're private, how do people get the privilege of reading your blog, out of curiosity? Because what's the point of posting it if no one can read it? (Legitimate question, I have no idea how that stuff works).

21stCenturyMom said...

The very best blogs are the ones where people are open and candid and just let 'er rip - like you. I am too chicken to do that.

Go private and keep saying what you want to say. It's sort of like lowering your voice when you're in public. Logging on is no big deal.

stronger said...

Protect yourself first! As long as your blog is private, there can't really be any linkage to your blog from Facebook- like if psycho people click on your friend list and google those names to find their blogs to see your profile though someone's comment section- they still can't get to your blog. It sucks knowing you've blocked people out, but then you can REALLY write whatever the heck you want! With no worry about any anonymous.

Prin said...

Yey! We can be annoyingly private together!

For facebook, there are ways of sort of making everything private, but there are also ways around the private things if you really want to get around them (i.e. through friends' pictures, etc).

For blogger- The only problem is the cache. he can still search your old posts through the internet cache. Go into settings, basic and remove your blog from their listings and put no for "Let search engines find your blog". That might help also.

Anonymous said...

GO PRIVATE!!! AND DONT LOOK BACK!!!

p.s. thanks for last night. i needed it. i can always count on you!

deb_dee said...

Go private - better safe than sorry. You never know with people (including co-workers or employers) are up to these days.

Flatman said...

I say private as well.

Stef said...

Bummer that you have to address this but as a lurker and occasional commenter I'm going to pipe up to agree with those who say go private. Better safe than sorry especially where work is concerned.

K.Michele said...

Its sad that there are crazies out there that make you need to make this decision. But I'm glad that you're out of your blue mood (even if it took a crazy). Hopefully blue to red will become a national trend next month. Good luck with whatever you decide!

Erin said...

That sounds scary. Be safe. Glad to hear you're making the switch. I need you around for my daily dose of laughter!

Tyger Lily said...

Do what ya gotta do sister!

F*cking a-holes!

Anonymous said...

Meg...go private. You have to protect yourself. And, it's only fair that you are able to continue to be yourself! That's what we all love about you.

Rachel

T said...

as a fellow "target" I understand your need to go private. I am just glad I made it on the M-list!
I would hate to see your blogs censored as your openness is so refreshing.