Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Good and Bad

First off, I missed BL last night because I went out and stuffed myself silly with Mexican food with my family. Who got kicked off?

Also if you do nothing at all for the next day, do this : SIGN UP FOR NETFLIX.

Holy 21st century, I have arrived.

Not only have we had a movie or series to watch everyday for the last two weeks, you barely have to do anything expect for click your mouse to get it.

And most of the thie movies you can stream right through your computer!

I mean - it's like when we first got DVR - I'm watching shit I would have never dreamed of before!


And dropping the disk off at the mailbox so we can get another ASAP is great incentive to get Cheese out of the house for four minutes every other day.

So we all win.

Okay, so now for the nitty gritty.

The BAD:

So right before I headed out to go to my 6-month follow-up kidney appointment this morning(which is coming at a good time, as I haven’t been feeling so hot for the last two months, and I'm not preggers but something certainly is taking over my body, it’s a good time to check things out, you know?), I was going through my Facebook pictures and tagging some photos I have had in my photo app.

And you know what I discovered?

My Kidney Brother de-friended me.

Ain’t that some shit?

Lemme tell ya what I think happened.

See, Cheese invited my whole family to the surprise engagement two months ago. Kidney Brother never showed.

He was then invited to the Marathon CarboLoad Dinner/Impromptu Engagement Party the following night. He never showed.

Finally, he was invited to a pizza night when my other brother came to town about a week later.

No show again.

Now, mind you, this is the same brother who, before getting my kidney, had a really sketchy history with my family, was a pretty unhappy, angry, distant and psychologically impaired person. But yet he always talked about wanting to get closer to my family.

So he gets my organ, then doesn’t bother to show up for any family event since.

And he has still never met Cheese, the man I am going to marry.

So after the no-shows in October, I sent him an email and was basically like, “Whatever, I’m pissed.” He sent an email back, blamed my mom for everything – something about missed text messages or voicemail or something – just like he always does.

Everything is always someone else’s fault - the whole world is conspiring against him. What a fucking surprise.

And then at some point, that asshole de-friended me.

Because I called him out on being a meanie.

I don’t know what I ever expected would change, and I am a little pissed at myself that this even bothers me. I mean, I sort of always knew he would put up this “Look at me, I’m a new man with a new perspective” face on for a while, but in the absence of any real therapy or internal self-improvement, of course nothing was going to change in the heart of his personality.

Whatever. Fuck him.

Moving on to The Good:

On the upshot, I found out that I got taken off the waiting list for the Hustle Up the Hancock, and am now going to do the full climb!

That’s 94 floors, bitches!

Oh glorious Hustle!

And Need Some More Good?

Comm recently posted about it being the Chritmas season, and giving more of ourselves. Then I read on Mommymeepa's blog that she is taking it step further and made a list of things she intends to do every day for someone else.

And since I love a good challenge, I am going to challenge myself to do something outside of myelf each day, starting with this month, and then hopefully beyond this month.

'Cause let's be honest, I really can get pretty consumed with my own BS sometimes.

So check out their blogs and see what they are doing.

I'll let you know what I decide for myself.


Captain Cactus said...

So I have to ask ... you have the DVR, but you missed BL? Did you at least record it?

As for the welcome to the 21st century, I got that feeling when we got the DVR last year. Holy crap has it changed our lives! Now we can watch all of our shows without missing out on boatloads of sleep while trying to match the schedule of the networks. Best. Invention. EVER.

Iron Krista, "The Dog Mom" said...

Any chance your brother's name is michael? I've got one of em too.... pretty sure he won't be getting one of my kidneys tho. You are a better person than me!! :-)

Prin said...

The BAD:

Holy crap. Makes me want to punch him in the kidney, but I won't for fear that you might feel it somehow.

The good:
Yeah, well, I tried to give a homeless guy a cupcake the other day but he was too stoned to know what I was talking about. So I kept it. It was tasty.

T. said...

What an ass, M. I am sad and pissed for you- I know the feeling.
On the upside what a GREAT idea about doing something good for someone.

Amy said...

If you missed it then go read it on TV Without Pity. I love their summaries of shows. Hell I read them even after I've watched the show. I like their commentary.

Everytime you talk about BL I want a chocoloate bar. Damn. Either it's a Wednesday thing or a mention of people who can't eat chocolate bars and therefore I'll eat it for them. DAMN IT! MUST. BE. GOOD.

Go Mom Go said...

Hey there.

BL - It was the Mom on the blue team. Whatever her name is...Renee? Does that sound right? It was between her and Ed, the black team had more votes.

Brother - SUCKS! I am sorry. I don't have an answer but you have to know that the rest of the family ROCKS!


Maggs said...

I love netflix. I just asked for the Roku player (so I can watch the on demand movies and stuff on my TV) for Christmas. Why? I have no idea, but watching movies seems so much better than watching TV. Though I too Tivo way too much stuff considering just 6 months ago I didn't even have a TV (just a hand me down Tivo with a life time subscription).

Sucks about your kidney bro. Some people never change, unless they want to. Hard for the rest of us to handle, but you did a good thing and your good thing can't change him. Hope he comes around someday (soon!).

Mommymeepa said...

Renee got voted off.

Forget your brother.

Good job on doing good for others.

I love you.

stronger said...

Hmmmm- I seem to have a different perspective. Love them the most when they deserve it the least.

Send him another friend invite...everyday if that's what it takes. If he is used to pushing away- if he's doing what he's always done- don't let him. Show him that you're not going to go away to let him piss away your kidney.

Tyger Lily said...

M. I was just thinking about you and how I hadn't been prompted by Reader to your blog and here you are again.......and 11 posts I have missed!

Glad you are okay and will be sure to get off my "google reader dependency" and check your blog directly. Hope you had a great Thanksgiving!

I have to say, I actually feel sorry for your bro and love Stronger's comment!

Mommymeepa said...

Ok, I feel guilty after reading Stronger's comment cuz I told you to forget your brother. I just have a sister that sucks the life out of me if I let her. I have basically let her go. I still call her and check on her, remember her at the holidays, pray for her, keep in touch with her kids etc. But there came a day when I had to think about me and what she was doing to me and my health and I finally decided that she doesn't care about herself and why should I be not sleeping well at nights, why should I be sick to my stomach, why should I continue to be hurt while she just goes on with her life not caring what she does to others. So that is the history behind my comment, FORGET YOUR BROTHER. I don't want you to let him affect your life. You are trying to reach out to him and no response. Keep inviting him from time to time, but don't let him affect you. You have so much going on in your life that you don't need him to pull you down. I could go on, but I think you get the idea. The part of my comment that I stick by the most is the I LOVE YOU comment. :-)
I cannot wait to do the muddy buddy with you guys.

Rachel said...

Meg...we've all got the good and bad going on in our lives. However, I, too believe that you should continue to periodically reach out to your brother but NOT allow it to consume you and trouble you. You did an amazing thing by offering up a kidney - it is his now responsibility to do with the kidney and the relationship what he chooses. However, you too can choose what you want to do regarding the relationship. Maybe if he sees you reaching out from time to time he will see that someone does care and get the help he so desperately needs. Don't let this get the best of you. Unfortunately, we can't control everything as much as we'd like to. You're a good person - I know you will do the best you can in this situation. Love ya!

Calyx Meredith said...

I'm glad your blog is public again. I missed reading even though I don't comment much. Your journey with your brother has been perplexing and inspiring to me. I think his behavior sucks but then I read about how you transcend that and seem stronger and stronger and ... I don't know how you do it. I am impressed from afar.

Tri-Angle said...

Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence.....

Stay with the Influence Meg....because you influence so many of of to be better people in our own Circles.

Derrick said...

Hi there! Long time lurker, first time commenter, great post, love the blog! I always wanted to say that. ;) Anyway, I thought I’d take this opportunity to say Hi, now that I’m able to read you again!

momo said...

this is a tough situation and i have lots of opinions, but i'm going to keep them to myself, i think. but i will say this - sometimes you get to the point where enough is enough. just because you ARE the bigger person, meg, doesn't mean you always HAVE to be.

we know all you did for him. we know the beautiful, caring, special, loving woman that you are. we love those things about you. what your brother cannot see is his loss.

oh, and i am SO glad you are back on bloglines!!!

Pharmie said...

I think I was one of the people who got shut out the second time around, so thanks for letting us back. I've always loved reading your blog. About the brother, I don't really know what to say. I know I'd be red hopping mad if I were in your shoes.

I missed BL too but managed to catch the end. I'm totally hooked.

Prin said...

In all Stronger's wisdom, I can't help but chuckle at this part:

"...let him piss away your kidney."


anji said...

Ask for your kidney back!

21stCenturyMom said...

I, too have a crazy brother named Michael. Not sure if yours is but I guess Krista and I have something in common.

I think your bro needs a little tough love. Keep after him, keep telling him you love him and don't hesitate to remind him you gave up a vital organ for him so THE LEAST HE CAN DO IS BE YOUR FRIEND!!! Jeebus. How hard is that to figure out?